Day 31

Day 31

June 20

WARNING SIGNS

Woman has an internal alarm that goes off if there is potential danger. Mother Nature I guess. But can we sense it just as well, when it happens to you? Maybe we do see the warning signs but we choose to ignore it, or do we really miss it completely? You do not know someone through an instant attraction. And you certainly cannot trust your own heart. We are human and nobody can think straight when emotions are involved. The thing is we do not know for real who and what a person is all about until much later. Sometimes it is hurtful because you have discovered things that are not that perfect picture you originally had imagined. You feel cheated and manipulated and lied to so how do I distinguish between the real thing and a fake?

The problem is we are all about the end result, God is about the process. God prepares us all the time, on our journey towards the end result. Preparation is waiting. Wait for God to tell you the next step; do not run ahead of Him. I tend to just run, I think I know and then want to finish it off by myself, like a toddler thinking I can walk by myself, but I fall without fail. God will find a way to tell you. I know that from experience ;-)

Maybe these tips will help you through your process:

1. Do not date in secret, introduce him to your family and friends so that they can help you see the real him
2. Listen to your families advice, they are not emotionally involved and can see things that you cannot
3. Get to know each other as friends first, most men can only pretend up to 2 months then the real person is revealed
4. Do not date younger men that do not have a job or a car, they will tell you what you need to hear so that he can score a free meal, ever heard of a sugar mama, you do not  need to be super rich to be one, as long as you can pay!!!
5. Men that do not carry the fruits of the spirit
6. Getting angry in the traffic or screaming at your child or the waiter
7. Complaining about other people and everybody at work
8. If he does not have his own friends
9. Being negative about life and finding fault (even in you)
10. Correcting you all the time
11. Complaining about your weight
12. Drinking everyday even if it is just one
13. Only buying flowers to say sorry
14. If he just wants to get married, there is no rush, get to know him first
15. If he does not see his own children regularly
16. If he bad-mouths his x-wife
17. Moody
18. If he controls you – do I need to explain?
19. If he pushes you to have sex, no matter what he says, he has not your interest at heart, believe it!!!!!
20. If he flirts with other woman, or talks about woman all the time, commenting about woman passing by, even the waitress, making sexual remarks by sms or on the phone or blatantly to you.
21. Only wants be alone with you all the time, be accountable, meet friends and get to know him socially.

This is but to mention a few!! Remember, pray throughout your relationship, God will protect you if you surrender it to Him. If you stay in His will He will be faithful and will reveal the warning signs to you. Be alert and wise in your decisions and you will stay under His shield. We all need to pray for each other and stand together as Christians in the body of Christ. Please pray for your friends and for us who are walking through the mine fields……