Who does your heart belong to?

We are made with emotions; we experience all kinds of feelings, feelings of disappointment, hurt, rejection, fear. We have to protect our hearts from letting the wrong emotions in; it can make you sick, even influence your performance or add to your stress. So do your emotions control you? I have to say that it is pretty easy for me to keep history of conversations in my head, bbm and sms. Re-read it or play it over and over in my head, then strategising in my head what I can say and why it was said like that. Very silly, I am using so much energy on this non-existing world, making pictures of what if, that never realises? It stirs unhealthy emotions inside of me, resentment, bitterness sometimes even revenge.

They say men are very straight forward, what comes out their mouths is exactly what they mean. Some women are brutal and too honest and controlling. The question is when you build relationship with someone, even for a short while, are you throwing your heart in harm’s way? Are you lending out your heart to people to trample on and hurt you? Giving your heart to someone means opening your secrets your desire and your emotions to a person. Ladies we are inclined to trust men so quickly and share our hearts. We need to be careful who we let in. Our hearts belong to the Lord, His the only one that you can trust 100%, but we do not, we trust strangers that hurt our feelings.

I cannot separate my heart from my emotions, if people abuse my heart my emotions follow and I become a person I do not want to be, angry and bitter. It is not their fault but my own fault. I have a choice and I can protect my heart from the wrong one. Ask God to help you to be able to discern between abusers and users. Hurt happens. God did not intend us to get hurt, especially by men but we voluntary give away our heart to the wrong people to do whatever they please, break it, use it, abuse it and return it to us bruised and bleeding. Protect your heart. If you give away little bits at a time you will be left with nothing except resentment. Keep your heart whole for the husband that God intended for you or your kids that need nurturing and love.

Your heart is a treasure; treasure you do not share with just anyone, our search for love continues and burns within us until we find peace. Every person has a deep need of acceptance that causes your heart to break and as long as we carry on giving our treasure away to those that God did not intend us to, we will stay unsatisfied, angry, resentful and bitter. I know that I have given away my heart to too many wrong, unappreciated people in my life, especially men.  I had to ask the Lord to teach me to protect my heart because I could not do it myself. God was faithful. He closed my heart for the wrong men and wrong friends. Be wise with your gift.

You are not dependant on other people for your happiness, you are responsible. 

My daddy

Let me tell you about my daddy...

My daddy is the richest man in the whole world; He has more money than you can count

My daddy is so important that He always has the last say

My daddy lives in a mansion

My daddy is building me the most beautiful home that my heart desires

My daddy is stronger than any human being that ever lived

My daddy cannot lie

My daddy cannot lie

My daddy loves me more than life itself

My daddy can give me anything I want because I do things to please Him and because I love Him with my whole heart

My daddy can make anything possible that seems impossible today

My daddy does not have the ability to hurt me

My daddy catches me every time I jump

My daddy feeds me and clothes me with the very best

My daddy kisses me all over every morning with a new day in a ray of sunlight

My daddy always does what He promises to do

My daddy holds me tight when I am scared

My daddy knows about every tear and every person that has ever hurt me

My daddy always takes my side

My daddy chooses a husband for me because He knows the best because He is older and wiser

My daddy is very important and gets worshipped by many because He deserves it

.........I am a princess

Fighting on your knees

Ladies, today I want to share something amazing.  I have been married before, once and really struggled with the whole submission thing. You tend to get this picture of domination and control over you, if you submit, do you not? The longer I am a Christian the more I learn about this interesting phenomenon. There are so many articles written about submission so many opinions and advice but what does God say really when he says submit to your husbands.

A few Sundays ago we learned that submission is not becoming a door mat saying yes and amen and being a slave but purely that both mom and dad have different roles to play. The woman’s roles are to nurture, care for and take care of our families. Dad provides and protects the family. So when a decision needs to be made within the family mom will come out of a perception of nurture and dad from a place of protection and provision because that is how we are made. Mom and dad discuss the matter with the whole family and then a final decision is made by dad. 

At this point some woman might say: ‘‘no’ I have just as much say!! Why does he have the last say” We woman do have the tendency to go into a role of control, control over the kids over dad because we feel that we know better and dad knows nothing. My problem in my first marriage was just that I did not want to give up my control because what if I get hurt again, what if I have to live under someone else’s terrible decision which is not the best thing for me or the family? It is a matter of not losing control over what is about to happen to us, it is absolutely normal behaviour. We try and hold onto things in the world to determine the outcome but do we really have control in the bigger scheme of things?  I am so sorry to be the bearer of bad news but we do not. So what can we do to help the outcome without dishonouring our husbands or insisting to get our own way?

PRAY, I had my first experience with my unsaved, x-husband that did not want to change my son’s school, trying to convince him was a task all most impossible. So the Lord said to me I do not want you to discuss it with him at all or nag him, I want you to pray. So I PRAYED. It was a matter of days before he came to me and in an absolute outrage exclaimed that he wants to change our son’s school. A miracle and a valuable lesson that I needed to learn before I got into a new marriage. My role is not to make the final decision but to pray for my husband to make the right decision. If God could change an unsaved man’s heart he can change a donkey’s heart. If things do not go your way after praying then it was not Gods way and be assured that God only wants the best for you and your family and that He does know better than you and your husband put together.

God wants to teach you to pray, fight on your knees the battle that seems so impossible. It is possible in prayer. Let go and let God take control in your family. Step into your role and pray for your family and if you are still single practice to pray instead of making things happen yourself. Let God teach you to become a praying wife and not a nagging wife. If you want a husband, do not stop praying. If you want to learn to be a good wife and have a successful marriage, pray and God will prepare you before you receive your husband.  If you want a husband that spoils you, pray and ask the Lord. If you want your kids to get along, pray and ask the Lord. If you want your husband to grow, pray. Fight on your knees. What a privileged honour for a woman to be able to pray and receive, to make a difference and be absolutely at peace at decisions made just by praying.

Love covers everything

This message I am sharing today is very close to my heart and have caused allot of hurt with me, my friends and family in the past. Allot of churches is somewhat divided in the concern of divorce and remarriage. I decided to write about it, to put it out there and try to understand God’s heart in these circumstances.

It states that a Christian couple can get divorced, if adultery has been committed. You are then permitted to remarry or in the case of a spouse that died. If there was desertion by an unbelieving spouse there is freedom for the believer to remarry, however, remarriages other than on these grounds are discouraged. Reconciliation is encouraged rather than divorce. Every effort should be made to restore the relationship. In regard of divorce and remarriage that have occurred before becoming a Christian, it is clear that it all falls into your old life, they are free to remarry under the law of Christ midst confessed and repented of.

So where does this leave us today, so many of us got divorced for many reasons other than adultery. If we are not allowed to remarry what will happen, sex outside of marriage instead of Holy matrimony, or just simply end up alone? How many of us are innocent in this circumstance, have been unfairly treated. Why do we have to find out now that we cannot marry again?

So what is my opinion....

God made a woman and a man to be together, to become one and multiply. That was the command. There was no such label as marriage. People labelled it and then corrupted it by asking Moses now what, what if you do not want to be with that one person anymore? So the people made another law, okay let’s call it divorce and then you free to do as you will, again it was made corrupt by the people. The Pharisees where like flies irritating Jesus with questions of the Law all the time. This is the same subject they bought up with Jesus and He responded; it is like adultery. The 10 commandments states do not commit adultery. The law does not state do not get divorced, the people asked for a law of divorce. God tried to protect the people by shielding their blood lines, but men knew better. God hates adultery because He made us to be with one partner for ever. God knows the consciences of divorce. Today there are so many illnesses manifesting in our children that doctors cannot explain for example autism. Ask yourself where it all started. The New Testament states if you so much as look at a woman or man lustfully you are committing adultery. If you want to get technical let’s get technical. If divorce was never instituted by God and marriage a human terminology then we should go back to the cross. Love covers all. Love gives me a second chance; love over rides the Law including manmade laws. Grace is what we operate on. May we judge people’s circumstances? Have we walked in those persons shoes in their destructive marriages? No, so can we really say what they should do and not do. Did Jesus not run a ministry for 3 years to free people from laws?

We tend to blame God for everything, but it is our own mistakes that cause us to fall. Man decided to divorce, it was not God’s plan for His people. God hates this Law as much as He hates adultery so Jesus compares it with adultery. A beautiful miracle that God created for us, being sexual in an intimate relationship with one partner is central to what it means to be human. We corrupted it with our lifestyles, we perverted it with our ads and movies and Hollywood. Sex was created before sin, WE corrupted it; we are the only ones to blame. So would the one out there that has not added to this sin please throw the first stone, every one of us have to repent, forefathers, you, me, everyone out there have contributed to the world we live in today, the corruption of what was made beautiful and pure.

I am divorced. I have sinned.

My heart’s desire is to have a second chance to make it right. I want to make a difference; I want to change generations after me. I have been forgiven by His stripes. By His grace I was washed clean, my sins forgotten as if it never happened.

Scripture references:

Gen 1:27-28

Gen 2:18-25

Lev 18

1 Thessalonians 4:3-8

Matt 19:3-9

2 Peter 2:9

1 John 2:7-9

Proverbs 18:22

1 Tim 5:14

Heb 13:4

Matt 5:32

Mark 10:9

1 Corinthians 7

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2. Become carefree like a child
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4. Always have money
5. Health like a horse
6. The wisest man in town
7. Satisfied with life
8. Want to get up in the morning, never tired again
9. Never ever being scared
10. Never ever being worried
11. Receiving the best partner, custom made for you
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13. Having authority
14. Having amazing kids
15. Receive a make-over and a brand new identity
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17. Every plan and process falling into place at the exact time, when you need it and how you need it
18. Understanding who you are and what your purpose is
19. Free insurance
20. Everlasting beauty
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THEN

All you have to do is to take the cocktail in the morning and the evening as much as you can. If you decide to take it today IT IS COMPLETELY FREE!! Your gift purchase will be delivered immediately, and all you have to do is to say these words.

”JESUS FORGIVE ME, FOR I AM A SINNER”