30 May 2011- Day 10

2 months bench mark…..a man shows his true colours within 2 months ladies!!! Get to know him as a friend for at least 2 months before you “fall in love”.

What is Love? is it Romeo and Juliet love or is it Paul’s love chapter in Corinthians love?

Love is patient, kind, it is NOT jealous or boastful or proud. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through any circumstance. If only Romeo had these qualities. Did he really think about Juliet’s reputation or what is best for her, when all he wanted was this beautiful 13 year old girl? What they felt was not love. The word love has been misused and tossed around for generations. We love as much as we love chocolate or camping. All the expressions are there but so many give up in a relationship as soon as things do not go the way they want it to go. Is that Love? Love is not selfish, rude, does not seek its own, and is not provoked; love does not fail…..

We get confused with love and infatuation…..

LOVE	INFATUATION
Conscious choice	Unexpected
An action	Accidently
Way of life	Butterflies and intense attraction
Always feels good, alone or in relationship	Feel good when affections are returned in kind
Feelings good or bad still in it. Loving that person in the middle of a fight….	Mostly concerned about feelings – if it feels good it’s okay, bad I am out of here
Direction of love outward	Direction of love is inward
Everlasting	Temporary
It stands alone depending on nothing for survival	Depends on reciprocation to survive
Is an imitation of God	Recognition of our attraction for the opposite sex

Infatuation is a natural reaction, so the feeling is not wrong, it is how we use it, is it blinding us to see reality or are we so dependent on affection that we would take anything and make excuses for all the wrongs. It is possible that we miss the warning signs. There is nothing wrong with being attracted to someone; we must just handle that attraction responsibly without giving in to desires and recklessness. Wisdom is the key word and with the help of your friends, family and God we can take time to get to know the other person, to understand his/her values, personality and character as objective as possible then the time will come to be swept up into a mutual attraction.

If you do not have a BIG love in your life yet and you have a lot of love to give, for now just direct your love to others. We received love freely so that we can love freely. A godly character is to love those around you, an outgoing concern for others, make it part of who you are so that it will define you in the eyes of those around you. Love is not just to direct to one individual but to everyone around you. Staying infatuated you will want to please yourself now!!! But love, love is becoming more like Yahweh.