Love covers everything

This message I am sharing today is very close to my heart and have caused allot of hurt with me, my friends and family in the past. Allot of churches is somewhat divided in the concern of divorce and remarriage. I decided to write about it, to put it out there and try to understand God’s heart in these circumstances.

It states that a Christian couple can get divorced, if adultery has been committed. You are then permitted to remarry or in the case of a spouse that died. If there was desertion by an unbelieving spouse there is freedom for the believer to remarry, however, remarriages other than on these grounds are discouraged. Reconciliation is encouraged rather than divorce. Every effort should be made to restore the relationship. In regard of divorce and remarriage that have occurred before becoming a Christian, it is clear that it all falls into your old life, they are free to remarry under the law of Christ midst confessed and repented of.

So where does this leave us today, so many of us got divorced for many reasons other than adultery. If we are not allowed to remarry what will happen, sex outside of marriage instead of Holy matrimony, or just simply end up alone? How many of us are innocent in this circumstance, have been unfairly treated. Why do we have to find out now that we cannot marry again?

So what is my opinion....

God made a woman and a man to be together, to become one and multiply. That was the command. There was no such label as marriage. People labelled it and then corrupted it by asking Moses now what, what if you do not want to be with that one person anymore? So the people made another law, okay let’s call it divorce and then you free to do as you will, again it was made corrupt by the people. The Pharisees where like flies irritating Jesus with questions of the Law all the time. This is the same subject they bought up with Jesus and He responded; it is like adultery. The 10 commandments states do not commit adultery. The law does not state do not get divorced, the people asked for a law of divorce. God tried to protect the people by shielding their blood lines, but men knew better. God hates adultery because He made us to be with one partner for ever. God knows the consciences of divorce. Today there are so many illnesses manifesting in our children that doctors cannot explain for example autism. Ask yourself where it all started. The New Testament states if you so much as look at a woman or man lustfully you are committing adultery. If you want to get technical let’s get technical. If divorce was never instituted by God and marriage a human terminology then we should go back to the cross. Love covers all. Love gives me a second chance; love over rides the Law including manmade laws. Grace is what we operate on. May we judge people’s circumstances? Have we walked in those persons shoes in their destructive marriages? No, so can we really say what they should do and not do. Did Jesus not run a ministry for 3 years to free people from laws?

We tend to blame God for everything, but it is our own mistakes that cause us to fall. Man decided to divorce, it was not God’s plan for His people. God hates this Law as much as He hates adultery so Jesus compares it with adultery. A beautiful miracle that God created for us, being sexual in an intimate relationship with one partner is central to what it means to be human. We corrupted it with our lifestyles, we perverted it with our ads and movies and Hollywood. Sex was created before sin, WE corrupted it; we are the only ones to blame. So would the one out there that has not added to this sin please throw the first stone, every one of us have to repent, forefathers, you, me, everyone out there have contributed to the world we live in today, the corruption of what was made beautiful and pure.

I am divorced. I have sinned.

My heart’s desire is to have a second chance to make it right. I want to make a difference; I want to change generations after me. I have been forgiven by His stripes. By His grace I was washed clean, my sins forgotten as if it never happened.

Scripture references:

Gen 1:27-28

Gen 2:18-25

Lev 18

1 Thessalonians 4:3-8

Matt 19:3-9

2 Peter 2:9

1 John 2:7-9

Proverbs 18:22

1 Tim 5:14

Heb 13:4

Matt 5:32

Mark 10:9

1 Corinthians 7